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I’m trying to find me a husband. I want to make sure if I get the right one on the hook I can keep him wanting more.

Tops - what are you looking for? Bottoms - any tricks you’re willing to share?

Please, for the love of the world, we all know we need to be clean. Don’t even bother mentioning that.

by Anonymousreply 93October 28, 2019 7:39 PM

Take it and don’t complain.

by Anonymousreply 2June 28, 2019 2:47 PM

I like a man who is 4-5” shorter than me (6’3” here) with a tight ass.

I like to be the boss, but I don’t mind a little back talk. I am somewhat vocal (“you like that?” or “how does that feel?”) and I am not afraid to be told to go harder, smack your ass, etc.

Don’t just lay there and don’t be mute. Tell me how it is, tell me what else you’d like from me.

by Anonymousreply 3June 28, 2019 10:44 PM

I like a little attitude in my bottoms. Nothing better than sassy bottom confidence.

by Anonymousreply 4June 28, 2019 10:51 PM

R4, are you talking verbal sass? Telling you your dick isn’t big enough? Just wanting to know how sassy to get

by Anonymousreply 5June 28, 2019 10:59 PM

A good bottom makes his own lube.

by Anonymousreply 7June 28, 2019 11:03 PM

R6

TBH the shorter the better down to about your height. I just don’t like to be too picky, so I only said 4-5” to look like less of a picky bitch. The best sex I’ve ever had about about 5’6”, it’s a good height to do some manhandling.

by Anonymousreply 8June 28, 2019 11:10 PM

A good bottom will cum handsfree while he's sitting down on your dick.

by Anonymousreply 9June 28, 2019 11:36 PM

"Don’t just lay there and don’t be mute. Tell me how it is, tell me what else you’d like from me."

I'm here to get fucked, not to massage your very fragile ego. STFU and do what you claim you do best.

We're not giving out Academy Awards here, bitch.

by Anonymousreply 10June 28, 2019 11:40 PM

If you think you can keep a gay boyfriend or husband based on being a fantastic bottom, you are hopelessly deluded and immature.

by Anonymousreply 11June 28, 2019 11:50 PM

For me, so many things....

A nice, plump booty, and you get extra points for dressing it up in cute underwear, thongs, lingerie etc to make it enticing. Smell pretty.

Hole presentation is everything. Reach back and open your cheeks, to turn me on even more

You don't have to try to be butch if that's not really you,enjoy yourself and let down all your guards. Moan as loud as you want, be as soft as you want, let me see how you feel

by Anonymousreply 12June 29, 2019 12:02 AM

R3/R8 I'll be right there.

I'm all about being manhandled. Especially if you can walk me around the room on your cock while you do it!

by Anonymousreply 13June 29, 2019 12:11 AM

Depends on the situation OP

For a quick hookup, one who doesn't talk a whole lot other than to tell me my body is hot and he loves my cock. And doesn't expect me to do anything but lay back and enjoy the blowjob or fuck him. And doesn't make me watch him jerk off after I've cum.

In a relationship, it's all the usual things you'd want--a good friend who is supportive but who'd rather get fucked than fuck.

by Anonymousreply 14June 29, 2019 12:20 AM

I may be the minority in this, but I love when the ass “talks back”. Nothing hotter than fucking a guy and hearing his ass gap and queef when you take your dick out.

by Anonymousreply 15June 29, 2019 12:28 AM

One that doesn't try to take off my condom without telling me. I put it on for a reason. Don't pretend you're helping me into your hole but really trying to get me to bareback you. This will end our session and get you blocked. No discussion.

by Anonymousreply 16June 29, 2019 12:42 AM

Good communication OP, all tops or bottoms are not the same, some will like one thing, another something else. Above one said he wants you to you tell him what you want, but some tops want to shove something in your mouth to shut you the hell up. Don't assume you know what someone wants, talk about it first. Good communication.

by Anonymousreply 17June 29, 2019 1:35 AM

R16 why won't you just bareback us?

by Anonymousreply 18June 29, 2019 1:36 AM

R11 I’m not so delusional that I think someone I have no spark or connection with is going to put his dick in me and a wizard is going to magically declare us soul mates.

Context: I’ve been seeing this guy for a month. I don’t consider myself to be **that** attractive (I’m probably a 7 or so) but he’s a 10. A big 10. By 10 I mean like 6 8” muscles for dayssss and so sweet and caring. We’re going out tonight and I think we’re going to hook up. I don’t know much about him sexually, but I’ve discerned he is a top and since he’s basically perfect in every way I want to make sure I don’t fuck this up.

R3/R8 I’m more than that 4-5” range (more like a foot+) shorter so I hope that works out.

Thank you everyone for the advice. I’m hoping I need it!!

by Anonymousreply 20June 29, 2019 3:34 AM

R12 and R14

Thank you for the advice! I’ve got a new pair of underwear for the occasion. I’m hoping it’ll all work out.

by Anonymousreply 21June 29, 2019 3:37 AM

I absolutely hate bossy bottoms. Fake passion is also the worst. I hate it when a bottom is fake moaning away, with a limp cock.

by Anonymousreply 22June 29, 2019 3:47 AM

I’m not crazy about power bottoms - too tiring.

by Anonymousreply 23June 29, 2019 4:01 AM

I'm not a power bottom, but I'm also not a ragdoll bottom or one that wants to lie there while the top does all the work.

They are already doing a lot of work!

by Anonymousreply 24June 29, 2019 4:06 AM

R6, I have never attempted the carry across the room maneuver. I do, however, dislike pulling it out when I don’t have to. I’ve mastered flipping him from riding me to his back and with someone flexible enough we can go from back to stomach.

See you soon, R6, I’ll leave the light on for you.

by Anonymousreply 25June 29, 2019 4:16 AM

Wow. So FUCK OFF R10. Not everyone here is just looking to ram rod some poor unsuspecting dude, fill him with cum, and never look him in the eye again. No Academy Awards needed, just make people feel good with your cock, sorry your micropenis is incapable.

by Anonymousreply 26June 29, 2019 12:02 PM

R14 is the type I usually go for

by Anonymousreply 27June 29, 2019 12:50 PM

R7: My ass does make it's own lube, but every guy who penetrated me thought my natural mucus lube was gross. So I stopped being a bottom because I still haven't gotten over feeling ashamed for having natural anus lube. And so many guys don't believe me when I tell them that I do.

by Anonymousreply 28June 29, 2019 12:57 PM

Not all bottoms get hard when being penetrated. It doesn't mean they aren't enjoying it.

by Anonymousreply 29June 29, 2019 1:02 PM

R22: Not all bottoms get hard when being penetrated. It doesn't mean they aren't enjoying it.

by Anonymousreply 30June 29, 2019 1:02 PM

R3, I’m 6’5 and have a thing for gingers. Stop by my house when he’s done with you.

by Anonymousreply 31June 30, 2019 2:31 AM

R28 Maybe they thought it was gross because your natural mucus lube is actually Gonorrhea.

by Anonymousreply 32June 30, 2019 2:57 AM

OP.

What’s the skinny? How’d it go?

by Anonymousreply 33June 30, 2019 3:20 AM

R25 If the carrying bit is too much I'm lean enough for you to take me on tabletops and counter tops.

R31 *drools*

*faints*

*on my way over*

by Anonymousreply 34June 30, 2019 3:24 AM

I think if you scream fuck me hard are you big stud that helps

by Anonymousreply 35June 30, 2019 3:38 AM

R34 I’m sure carrying won’t be too much, but the table tops and counter tops can also be arranged.

by Anonymousreply 36June 30, 2019 3:54 AM

I don't mind accomadating tops like r14 IF they know how to fuck. Too many tops like to play at being an alpha and refuse to reciprocate oral or kiss or anything, but then turn out to be really lousy fucks.

That leaves absolutely no part of the experience for me to enjoy. I hope you can back up your talk r14. If you can I'd have no problem meeting all your asks

by Anonymousreply 37June 30, 2019 6:52 AM

R32: I've never had anything like that. Okay fine, let's say they did think it was something bad, despite me explaining that it's my natural mucus lubrication, then they go to another guy and he has natural mucus lubrication too. They shame him for it, and they keep doing that for more guys. At some point if they had any awareness, they'd ask or learn about the possibility of it not being some infection, but actually something that's good. Douching isn't exactly healthy to do all the time, because washing away that natural lubrication from a guys anus makes the guys anal walls vulnerable.

by Anonymousreply 38June 30, 2019 7:55 AM

Being clean and tight.

Sloppy loose holes do not get the cock off.

by Anonymousreply 39June 30, 2019 9:14 AM

R39: Or those guys who aren't real tight or real loose. Like you can feel the tightness of their hole, but you can also feel that looseness of their hole that glides against your cock.

by Anonymousreply 40June 30, 2019 9:55 AM

Enthusiasm. You can tell when a guy really likes to be fucked.

And a great ass, of course.

by Anonymousreply 41June 30, 2019 11:29 AM

R43: Sorry I don't know that language.

by Anonymousreply 44June 30, 2019 11:34 AM

Okay I looked it up R43. Why is your name Elle though? Isn't that a female name?

by Anonymousreply 45June 30, 2019 11:39 AM

I'm large, I contain multitudes, darling.

by Anonymousreply 46June 30, 2019 11:46 AM

I’m with R33. OP, tell us how it went!!

by Anonymousreply 47June 30, 2019 12:48 PM

Awful R47! I shat myself, and there a lot of blood in it too, because he was too rough!

by Anonymousreply 48June 30, 2019 1:11 PM

R33, I just told R47 what happened! There was lots of poo, lots of blood, and lots of embarrassment! He was violently rough with me and I had to get stitches. Will keep you all updated after I'm out of hospital.

by Anonymousreply 49June 30, 2019 1:15 PM

R46 is a tranny who goes under it's prostitute alias Elle.

by Anonymousreply 50June 30, 2019 1:31 PM

I’m so glad R48 and R49 are wrong.

He picked me up and we went to dinner Friday night at a pretty fancy joint. Afterward, we walked through a local park and he asked me if wanted to watch a movie with him at his place.

When we go there he and I sat next to each other on the couch, one thing leads to another and we’re making out. Not uncharted territory. Soon my glasses come off. Then my shirt. Then my pants. Before I know it I feel all his weight pressing me down into the bed and his cock is inside me. Lots of chest rubs and “yes, I like that’s” later, he was asking my to stay the night and giving me a pair of boxers and his sweat pants which were 6 sizes too big. I almost died of cuteness overload.

We met up again last night too. More low key this time, but we still got hot and heavy.

Pivot - Bottoms: best way to handle a giant cock?

by Anonymousreply 51June 30, 2019 2:12 PM

[quote]it's prostitute alias

Oh, dear.

by Anonymousreply 52June 30, 2019 3:14 PM

[quote] Bottoms: best way to handle a giant cock?

I've had the best experiences with cocks of any size following a few basic ground rules

(1) I know I'm clean and feel confident about it

(2) We spend a fair amount of time on foreplay

(3) A solid amount of lube - this can be tricky getting to the "Goldilocks" amount - not too dry and not too slippery.

(4) Try a variety of positions. I find that the bigger the guy is, the traditional ass up or on the back positions can be harder for both of us. If the guy has a curved dick sometimes me being on an elevated surface works (y'all thought I was joking about the countertop but....) and sometimes standing up in the shower also works well. No two snowflakes, or cocks, are alike.

I've handled a few big hung dudes - in the 9ish and thick range - pretty painlessly following these guidelines.

The worst way to handle a big cock is in my experience if the top is just a bad top. I've encountered a few hung dudes that were just terrible in bed, sorry to say. Thought being an asshole made them "alpha" and tried to just jam it in with no foreplay or planning. That's not fun. I mean, I joke that I want to feel like a human Fleshlight sometimes but I don't actually want to be treated like one!

by Anonymousreply 53June 30, 2019 3:17 PM

Adding to R53's great tips, it also helps if the top fingers your hole a little (with lube) to start to loosen you up.

by Anonymousreply 54June 30, 2019 3:21 PM

R54 Yes, that's part of the foreplay for sure. For me it's a huge turn on to feel a guy's fingers inside of me (and of course a little lube helps).

by Anonymousreply 55June 30, 2019 3:39 PM

R53 and R54

Thank you for the insight. Both nights he’s been a total gentleman, spend a lot of time getting me ready for him. He did say when I first got his pants off Friday night that he was a big guy and if something was too intense he would slow down.

Mostly I have been on top of him so I can control the pace. I’ll have to see if I can lure him into the shower or on a counter top next time.

The first two times were really good, I just fear the honeymoon effect will wear off and I’ll need some new strategies.

by Anonymousreply 56June 30, 2019 3:43 PM

OP, just being genuine and sweet (as you seem to be) should keep him. All the other things will eventually fall into place.

by Anonymousreply 57June 30, 2019 3:49 PM

OP, what you need to cultivate is a total clear liquid diet so that at any time you can bend over and your butthole can take his big dick for as long as he needs it.

by Anonymousreply 58June 30, 2019 3:51 PM

[quote] I’ll have to see if I can lure him into the shower or on a counter top next time.

I'm small so the countertop may not be for everyone! LOL But my point was think about his height, yours, if his dick curves, etc.

If your top has a dick that curves upwards or is a really tight dick (you know, the ones that snap against his stomach when he's hard) then you have to think of angles that aren't necessarily him sticking his cock straight in. It will be less painful for you and more fun for both.

A lot of bottoms want to lay on their stomach and voila, breakfast is served. But it doesn't always work that way. (Not saying you're like that but it's what a lot of tops have told me frustrated them.)

by Anonymousreply 60June 30, 2019 3:53 PM

Avoid all TOPS who use the word "session" for a fuck, such as R16. Not boyfriend material. Creepy automatons.

by Anonymousreply 61June 30, 2019 4:35 PM

Pre-lubing. Not being tighter than a banjo string. Being communicative. I want to know you’re enjoying yourself. If you’re not having fun, I’m not having fun.

by Anonymousreply 62June 30, 2019 4:41 PM

Thank you, R53. It’s weird asking for advice on DL, but I think it’s working. I wasn’t feeling well today and he came by just to sit with me. He’s so cuddly and nice, I’m glad we met!

by Anonymousreply 63July 1, 2019 2:51 AM

R63 he sounds like a nice guy! Good for you!

by Anonymousreply 64July 1, 2019 2:52 AM

Thank you R37 ( I think)

Those sort of hookups can be fun because you both know they're just that--a way for both guys to get off, but nothing more expected out of it and no conversation beyond "where do you want to cum?" and "thank you, that was fun."

In a relationship that sort of dynamic would not work though.

by Anonymousreply 65July 1, 2019 3:01 AM

Full participation. Don’t just lay there. Really be in the moment. Talk with me, communicate. Don’t talk stupid shit, but tell me what’s working with what we’re doing and what isn’t. Tell me when you’re ready to try new positions or when you want me to eat your ass more and when you need more lube.

You need to be 100% in the moment with me, otherwise - you’re just a dead lay. Neither of us is going to have a great time. Many tops are really into getting out bottom off, not just getting off ourselves. So we need to know what gets you off.

by Anonymousreply 66July 1, 2019 6:27 AM

R66 Yes, and much of that applies to tops too. It's important for both to communicate. I've worked hard for a few tops where they were so quiet and disconnected that it was like riding a piece of plastic. It all comes alive when we're both into it, of course!

by Anonymousreply 67July 2, 2019 12:36 AM

The desire to please, good head, nice bubble butt, impeccable hygiene, tight, a bottom who loves getting fucked (and shows it) and loves being a bottom, a bottom in ecstasy.

by Anonymousreply 68July 2, 2019 6:46 PM

All this talk about good tops is really making my hole twitch!

by Anonymousreply 69July 2, 2019 7:48 PM

My mussy is wetter than August in New Orleans!

by Anonymousreply 71July 2, 2019 10:05 PM

I’m damp as a cellar down there. All mildewy. Enter if you dare.

by Anonymousreply 72July 2, 2019 10:44 PM

The right amount of moaning. Love it when a bottom acts as if my dick is relentlessly massaging his G spot and says "fuck" repeatedly.

by Anonymousreply 73July 2, 2019 11:05 PM

Love bottoms that can take my cock (8+ thick) without complaining/whining. Like to be able to fuck hard and go for awhile. Also hate when bottom's j/o themselves while I'm trying to fuck them (their cocks should be irrelevant).

by Anonymousreply 74July 7, 2019 2:58 AM

Don’t be into just one position and don’t just lie there. Be clean, but sweaty is good too, just not dirty.

by Anonymousreply 76July 7, 2019 3:01 PM

A bottom with Kung Fu Grip© goes to the front of the line.

by Anonymousreply 77July 7, 2019 4:25 PM

Update for anyone that cares:

So it’s been about two weeks since we started having sex and I definitely think it’s hitting a new level. After the first night where he gave me the pants 6 sizes too big, he actually got some sweat pants for me to keep at his house (he got a sloppy wet blowjob for that nice little gesture).

In a little less than two weeks we’ve fucked just about everywhere. On the bed (obvi), in the shower, on top of the washing machine, in his hot tub, literally on top of his kitchen table...

It’s not all kittens and sunshine. He’s kind of bossy and has a slight temper. But it’s working out.

Thank you to everyone for the advice. I’m really happy.

by Anonymousreply 78July 11, 2019 3:39 AM

[quote] He’s kind of bossy and has a slight temper.

Sorry, baby boy. Those are words of danger. Cut your losses and run now. To quote Maya Angelou, "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time."

As he grows more confident in the relationship, this will increase. Copy this. Tuck it away some place safe. Don't forget you have it. Re-read it from time to time.

Better luck next time.

by Anonymousreply 79July 11, 2019 2:14 PM

Cute story, OP. Glad you’re happy, boo.

by Anonymousreply 80July 15, 2019 3:48 AM

A lot of tops are kind of lousy, they are so obsessed with their idea of masculinity (=heterosexuality) that they mimic the it's-all-about-me, push-cum & pull dullness of the worst straight stereotype.

Let THEM be the ones pressured to struggle for offering quality, as their relative out-numbering has made them self indulgent and neglecting of actually being good lovers.

Bottoms, on the other hand, suffer incredible competence.

Which is a reason underlying the fact that this very website, which is bottom centre, is so hostile to bottoms?

by Anonymousreply 81July 15, 2019 3:54 AM

What makes a good bottom?

A hungry hole. No limits.

If your bottom has limits, sooner or later you will encounter Pushy Bottom Syndrome and nothing is a greater boner-killer than that.

by Anonymousreply 83July 15, 2019 1:38 PM

R83 is the example that one can be gay AND a sexist without actually have a woman in the equation

Go die in a grease fire

by Anonymousreply 85July 15, 2019 1:48 PM

For you, R85.

The Bottom Who Said "No."

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by Anonymousreply 86July 15, 2019 1:50 PM

[quote]Also hate when bottom's j/o themselves while I'm trying to fuck them (their cocks should be irrelevant).

I agree its hotter when the bottom doesn't do it

by Anonymousreply 87July 15, 2019 4:20 PM

What makes a good bottom? Well, let's see:

1) One who doesn't just lay there like a statue, expecting the top to do all the work;

2) One who moans like a bitch in heat (in authentic pleasure, not fake) while getting pounded; also has a tight, clean, hairy hole and doesn't get upset if I call it pussy while my cock is splitting him open;

3) One who doesn't labor under the stupid notion that you must be a "fake" top if you like to suck dick (newsflash: we may be tops but we still like cock; that's why we're gay men).

by Anonymousreply 88July 16, 2019 9:21 AM

Reading some of the above comments I can see this won’t be the most popular reply...

I am an (almost) exclusive top and I am truly in it for your pleasure and mine. Even with hook ups, I want you to have a good time while I’m fucking you. For that reason, tell me how I’m doing! You like it hard, let me know. Want me to take it easy? I’ll take that feedback too.

When I am topping I’m giving my best guess as to what is going to blow your fucking mind. If I’m not doing something you want let me know.

On the flip side, the same applies. I’m going to move you around (at times by force) to get my own pleasure too!

Let’s work together to get you to cum untouched and me to cum hard. Not rocket science, just teamwork.

by Anonymousreply 89July 16, 2019 10:11 PM

I shared a little with him, we just haven’t found much that works.

His company paid for the movers to move him, so he flew to me and drove my stuff back in a UHaul when I was done with school this spring. The first few days weren’t bad, I was settling in to our new home and then he took two weeks off in June so we could be together. Since then we’ve fallen a bit into the rhythm, I just get lonely. He suggested I make new friends in our new location, but it’s hard. His only suggestion was to go to lunch with a few of his girl friends from high school (since they don’t work), they’re the housewife types now though so I didn’t have too much in common.

We’re now in a suburb of Columbus, Ohio. There isn’t a bunch to do, but it’s not too bad, I just don’t know where to start! R5 brought up some good things, I guess what I am wondering is if there are specific things from that list someone has done to make friends. So far I’ve contemplated joining a rec softball team, running club, or volunteering at the library.

I’m 27 and he is 32, we’ve been together since we met 7 years ago when he was finishing up his MBA.

I should not have used the word hate. They make him happy, I like that and I would never get between them...it’s just a lack of commonality. They talk a lot about their common interests (which makes sense) it’s just how they handle the lack of common interests. For example, most of them played high school football. I ran track. When they learned that they kind of jumped on me about how that’s a “sissy sport.” No one thing they’ve done is super terrible, they just kind of take that approach to many things.

by Anonymousreply 91July 19, 2019 6:57 PM

A bottom who moans is really hot.

by Anonymousreply 92September 8, 2019 5:43 AM

R72 likes the pole AND the hole...

by Anonymousreply 93October 28, 2019 7:39 PM

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