Michelle Obama is readying for the release of her new Netflix documentary, “The Light We Carry: Michelle Obama and Oprah Winfrey.” The doc is an hour and thirty minutes film featuring an honest coversation between Michelle and Oprah, where they discuss multiple topics highlighted in Michelle’s book. One of these is friendship.
“Did all of your friends make the cut once you went to the White House?” Oprah asked, referencing a statement that Michelle made in her book.
“Nope. No, they did not,” said Michelle. “Here’s the thing that I’ve learned: Stay open to friends… but when they show you who they are, you got to [believe them], and then move on. And some friends had foibles that were fine for ‘regular’ friends, but once we get into the White House, it was like, ‘Oh, you can’t be that person up in here. We got too much at stake.’”
“If my friends weren’t acting right? It was slow ghost,” she said. “You know, the slow ghost — where you don’t cut them off right away, but you just become less… available.”
Offsite Link| by Anonymous | reply 85 | April 27, 2023 1:12 PM |
Coward. She should list the deal-breaking foibles. That would be very DL.
| by Anonymous | reply 1 | April 25, 2023 7:33 PM |
[quote]The doc is an hour and thirty minutes film featuring an honest coversation between Michelle and Oprah
Sounds riveting!
| by Anonymous | reply 2 | April 25, 2023 7:33 PM |
I'd love to know what the deal-breakers were too. Were the friends trying to lobby her?
| by Anonymous | reply 3 | April 25, 2023 7:37 PM |
Another mockumentary hosted by Oprah. I thought more highly of Michelle.
| by Anonymous | reply 4 | April 25, 2023 7:38 PM |
This seems a bit indiscreet and low-rent. I expect a lot more from MO (but not Oprah.)
| by Anonymous | reply 5 | April 25, 2023 7:43 PM |
What a bitch.
I always thought she was, but this is actual proof.
| by Anonymous | reply 6 | April 25, 2023 7:43 PM |
[quote] "This seems a bit indiscreet and low-rent. I expect a lot more from MO (but not Oprah.)"
Agreed, R5.
| by Anonymous | reply 8 | April 25, 2023 7:52 PM |
Didn't Michelle slow ghost O herself?
| by Anonymous | reply 9 | April 25, 2023 7:53 PM |
[quote]"And some friends had foibles that were fine for 'regular' friends, but once we get into the White House, it was like, 'Oh, you can't be that person up in here. We got too much at stake.'"
They spared us countless moronic Daily Mail articles and Fox News segments by recognizing that.
| by Anonymous | reply 10 | April 25, 2023 7:55 PM |
Lost some respect for her when she was hugging up with W….
| by Anonymous | reply 12 | April 25, 2023 8:05 PM |
She is probably talking about that event planner who coordinated that state dinner that was crashed by those tacky reality stars. She was technically an assistant to the president and she got shown the door REAL quick.
| by Anonymous | reply 13 | April 25, 2023 8:09 PM |
I'm actually doing that now with a 30 year friend. He was my closest and I worry that I kept him since I didn't have others that were that close. But, something happen and I determine that it is not worth it and I needed to have more self-respect for myself so I am doing the slow ghost.
| by Anonymous | reply 14 | April 25, 2023 8:23 PM |
^^^ I agree with Ms Obama and R14. "Slow-ghosting" is a splendid term for a much-needed act.
The thing about slow-ghosting is, your "friends" retain the chance to redeem themselves. But it's unlikely that will happen, because their behavior got them on the list in the first place.
| by Anonymous | reply 15 | April 25, 2023 8:28 PM |
Not everything should be shared, Michelle. You do this quietly, not vocally.
| by Anonymous | reply 16 | April 25, 2023 8:28 PM |
"...for reasons that are well known to them."
| by Anonymous | reply 17 | April 25, 2023 8:31 PM |
Yes, Michelle, you must do these things quietly, not vocally.
Do you think I was making all kinds of obscene noises when I was photographed sticking my fingers up my twat?
Some manners and decorum, please.
| by Anonymous | reply 18 | April 25, 2023 8:36 PM |
How does Michelle know her friends weren't the ones slow ghosting?
| by Anonymous | reply 19 | April 25, 2023 8:38 PM |
Lol she tortured poor Oprah when she went on and on about a delicious pie the WH Chef made, and didn't offer any to O.
| by Anonymous | reply 21 | April 25, 2023 8:42 PM |
Michelle really does have a nasty streak.
Another shitty thing she said was something like "Only 20 of our 30 years of marriage were good."
No wonder Barack despises her.
| by Anonymous | reply 22 | April 25, 2023 8:47 PM |
Sounds weird. They were good enough for you to waste time with before the White House. Michelle Obama seems like the type that would say: "Everyone should always live their best life." She should have cut them loose before the White House.
And why "slow-ghost"? Seems kind of cowardly, coming from her. I have ghosted people before, but that's me.
| by Anonymous | reply 24 | April 25, 2023 8:49 PM |
Oprah is why we can't have nice First Ladies.
| by Anonymous | reply 25 | April 25, 2023 8:50 PM |
There is nothing nasty about anything that she said.
| by Anonymous | reply 26 | April 25, 2023 8:51 PM |
For anyone interested in the backstory, this is the person she is talking about.
Offsite Link| by Anonymous | reply 27 | April 25, 2023 8:52 PM |
I was slow ghosting a friend during covid. Then I reluctantly saw them twice in one month last summer, and then they ghosted me! I couldn't have been happier.
| by Anonymous | reply 28 | April 25, 2023 9:06 PM |
After a certain point ask yourself if a friend makes you feel bad more than good. If bad then adieu.
| by Anonymous | reply 29 | April 25, 2023 9:27 PM |
I appreciate and approve of this. I wouldn't have announced it, but I I'm not a former FLOTUS.
| by Anonymous | reply 30 | April 25, 2023 9:47 PM |
Michelle seems like the type everyone would want as a mom
| by Anonymous | reply 31 | April 25, 2023 10:08 PM |
"....once we got in the White House....."
Bitch, nobody voted for you!
| by Anonymous | reply 32 | April 25, 2023 10:22 PM |
[quote]Michelle seems like the type everyone would want as a mom.
Not me! Ok, I'm 44, but, no thanks!
| by Anonymous | reply 33 | April 25, 2023 10:23 PM |
So she took the position and their responsibility seriously and didn't suffer fools? Good for her.
| by Anonymous | reply 34 | April 25, 2023 10:29 PM |
She's honest and realistic.
Offsite Link| by Anonymous | reply 35 | April 25, 2023 10:39 PM |
[quote]"And some friends had foibles that were fine for 'regular' friends, but once we get into the White House, it was like, 'Oh, you can't be that person up in here. We got too much at stake.'"
I don't think I can follow what she's saying, and maybe watching the documentary, in context, it would make more sense. Is she saying she's slow ghosted friends who wanted to take advantage of her place in the White House or would end up in tabloid stories? Or friends that did something bad and needed to go? I've always found Michelle Obama to be an extremely straightforward and clear communicator, but I'm struggling to understand what she's talking about.
Can someone explain it to me in simple terms?
| by Anonymous | reply 36 | April 25, 2023 10:50 PM |
She dumped the friends who were too black for the WH.
| by Anonymous | reply 37 | April 25, 2023 10:55 PM |
R36, they had an image to uphold. So any friends that were too ghetto was slow-ghosted. You got it now.
| by Anonymous | reply 38 | April 25, 2023 10:57 PM |
Unlike the Trumps, they couldn't get away with defrauding childrens charities, violation of the Hatch Act, or selling if government secrets. And, they had to make sure that the people they surrounded themselves with were good people, not the Steven Miller/Roger Stone/Steve Bannon type.
They did what they had to do. It was necessary and smart.
| by Anonymous | reply 39 | April 25, 2023 11:00 PM |
They don't call it politics for nothing.
| by Anonymous | reply 40 | April 25, 2023 11:02 PM |
Mrs. Obama simply is saying that in the White House they had a critically important public life, and that that came first if friends didn't understand what it meant.
Invoking race as a reflex joke is one thing, but seeing people jump on more "Bad Obama" MAGA shit is a reminder that the DL remains unfortunately vulnerable to the true racists.
| by Anonymous | reply 41 | April 25, 2023 11:05 PM |
[quote][R36], they had an image to uphold. So any friends that were too ghetto was slow-ghosted. You got it now.
I seriously doubt that's what she means. I can't imagine Michelle Obama having "ghetto" friends, and I think just using that word, and suggesting that is a little racist.
| by Anonymous | reply 42 | April 25, 2023 11:11 PM |
I don't think the ghosting had anything to do with race or class. I'm guessing it was people who partied too much (cocaine, illegal drugs), had criminal ties, fucked around too much.
| by Anonymous | reply 43 | April 25, 2023 11:20 PM |
I have a semi-public life on a very small level, but there are friends and family who fit well in some parts of my life who don't and wouldn't fit in others. It doesn't get mentioned but it's mutually understood. They don't invite me where I wouldn't fit, either.
People in critically powerful positions are inevitably targeted by creeps and political enemies. Sketchy friends offer a conduit for mischief, attacks and real damage to the initiatives, programs and power that are the REAL targets of "the other side." And it's not party-driven, except that at this time one party is fascist (at best).
| by Anonymous | reply 44 | April 25, 2023 11:21 PM |
I bet everybody, including the waitress at the Waffle House you stopped in once on the campaign, contacts you and tries to get an invitation to the WH once you're in there. You probably need to beat them off with sticks.
| by Anonymous | reply 45 | April 25, 2023 11:24 PM |
Michelle grew up in a black neighborhood in Chicago but not sure just how ghetto she ever was. And certainly not much at all from 18 on at Princeton. Barack was never ghetto. So I don't think these 40 year old Harvard lawyers had ghetto friends who she had to ghost.
racist fucktards, up thread.
| by Anonymous | reply 46 | April 25, 2023 11:31 PM |
Ghetto? Why do people insist on calling black neighborhoods ghettos when it’s a word used for poor Jewish communities in Europe? It was like they couldn’t wait to pawn that name off on someone more oppressed than them.
| by Anonymous | reply 47 | April 26, 2023 12:25 AM |
I wish she'd stayed active in politics - she could be our next president.
| by Anonymous | reply 48 | April 26, 2023 12:30 AM |
She could be referring to anything, from friends with poor table manners to friends who did drugs in the WH, and anything in between.
In other words, we can't know whether or not the friends "earned" their banishment because we don't - and likely won't - know what they did.
I agree that doing an Oprah "documentary" is not a good look for anybody.
| by Anonymous | reply 49 | April 26, 2023 1:15 AM |
[quote]Unlike the Trumps,
Sure, the Trumps, always the Trumps. Move on!
| by Anonymous | reply 50 | April 26, 2023 1:16 AM |
[quote]She could be referring to anything, from friends with poor table manners to friends who did drugs in the WH
You think MO has friends that would do drugs in the White House? I think you're confusing her with Don Jr.
| by Anonymous | reply 51 | April 26, 2023 1:28 AM |
I'm sure Barack and Michelle lit up the occasional joint. If people were smoking weed in the WH Republicans would turn it into a national scandal.
| by Anonymous | reply 52 | April 26, 2023 1:36 AM |
I think that’s just being realistic. She did what she had to do.
But she DIDN’T have to do an interview with Oprah, ugh.
| by Anonymous | reply 54 | April 26, 2023 1:48 AM |
That couple got tens of millions for TV and podcast development. Le snore.
I'm surprised Michelle, after leaving the White House and taking a break, didn't go use her Harvard Law degree to so some high-powered job.
| by Anonymous | reply 55 | April 26, 2023 6:30 AM |
When they go low, we gho.
| by Anonymous | reply 56 | April 26, 2023 10:12 AM |
Michelle's Chicago public high school is ranked 67th nationally. Her older brother went to Princeton. She was never ghetto, nor were her friends.
It's a whole 'nother question whether she and Oprah are gold-plated, sanctimonious gasbags who are in it for the money. I'd only see that documentary if I was paid to watch it. And I voted for her husband both times.
| by Anonymous | reply 57 | April 26, 2023 3:44 PM |
As much as I like the Obamas, Michelle has never given me the warm fuzzies. Neither did Hillary. I like them both more than say, Nancy Reagan or Melanoma Trump, but they are both cunts, so there’s that. But in interviews she did when Barack was running for president, she was asked how they met and she was somewhat disparaging of him, making light of his “funny name” and his smoker’s breath. It sounded…shaming to me. And she did it in more than one occasion. When Barbara Walters interviewed them post election, Barack stopped the interview to tell Michelle that she had spinach in her teeth. I think it was his way of bringing her down a little bit. I admire her intelligence and her love of her family, but I don’t think she’s a very warm person. And as mentioned above, when I saw her hugging up with George W., it altered my perception of her and Barack. They’re part of the 1%. The political party leadership works the public up into a frenzy during their campaigns against their opponents, but they are best buddies when they’re not running. But we’re all hating on each other while they sit back and paint each other’s toenails and eat pizza. As a black man I feel somewhat guilty about my feelings, but I am being honest. I guess I’ve always been on the fence with her.
| by Anonymous | reply 58 | April 26, 2023 4:06 PM |
Really, why is it important to like her, or find her a "warm" person?
I never understand the fascination of some gay men of First Ladies, on trying to glamorize them or wash away their faults because they dressed in chic designer clothes or set a nice table at state dinners. Most take up a limited range of official duties and champion a non-controversial cause or two. Nothing wrong with that, but they were not elected, they are not officially part of some team, not co-presidents.
To me she seems a cautious person anxious to portray her own capabilities, to stand on her own merits in the company of a political husband whose capabilities are judged in a broad light where she may be more comfortable judges by her peers based on education and professional focus. Nothing wrong with being more comfortable with that than the popularity contest of a general election.
The ghosting comments don't seem absurd. That one-third of her marriage was more strained than not doesn't quite seem absurd. What doesn't make sense in either case if for a person who professes her love of privacy and substance to bare personal matters unnecessarily and in public, Oprah-esque detail.
| by Anonymous | reply 59 | April 26, 2023 4:37 PM |
R59, I don’t think that I need anyone’s permission to like or dislike. And don’t assume that I’m painting a picture of anyone. She doesn’t give me the warm fuzzies, that’s all. And I’m hardly fascinated with First Ladies. I cannot speak for others in this thread. And if they are, what does that have to do with YOU? Your comments come across as smug and condescending.
| by Anonymous | reply 60 | April 26, 2023 5:59 PM |
The conventional wisdom and the reason Oprah is bankrolling a film is that people worship Michelle. It's perfectly okay to say, "No thanks, toots." She's shrewd and smart but not genuine, warm or nice.
| by Anonymous | reply 61 | April 26, 2023 6:04 PM |
Friendships end, change or remain.
When Obama was elected in 2008, but before he was sworn in in 2009, I read an article where the reporter interviewed what were close friends of Barack Obama from when he served in the Illinois State Senate.
They all were serving their terms at the same time. They had cookout barbecues together, attended sporting events together, had weekly card games, their families socialized together and could fairly be described as close.
Once Obama was a US Senator, the friendships remained but changed, although all 4 still kept in touch because they were still elected Illinois politicians, and, of course, part of the job is to maintain a channel to your US Senator.
After the results were in and he defeated McCain, the reporter asked him if he has texted Obama.
"No, and I won't. He isn't ours anymore." his old friend stated.
That remark touched me, it was so real and poignant.
I share the reaction of some here that they wished Michelle Obama hadn't sat down with Oprah, but still, there is a certain truth to the reality that Obama describes about having to slow-ghost.
Once you've got those keys to the WH, not everybody can, or should, enter the door.
| by Anonymous | reply 62 | April 26, 2023 7:03 PM |
She sounds like a cunt, just like Oprah.
| by Anonymous | reply 64 | April 26, 2023 7:18 PM |
I agree R42. She probably had friends that were maybe drunks/a little wild, etc.
Fine in normal life but for the White House? No.
| by Anonymous | reply 65 | April 26, 2023 7:23 PM |
Believe it or not R60, it wasn't about you, not one comment that I made. The only connection is to 2 threads, both yours I take it, with the phrase "warm fuzzies" but I was commenting on a larger fascination, particularly by gay men, on the frivolous aspects of presidential wives that comes down to a warm-cold spectrum and ridiculous weighing of people who matter least.
There's a small industry of gay male biographers of First Ladies: the gowns and frocks and tittle-tattle trivia brigade. Look at threads on DL about presidential wives and many comments seem a place to attack women for style and grace factors that matter fuck all.
| by Anonymous | reply 66 | April 26, 2023 7:37 PM |
Point taken and understood r66.
| by Anonymous | reply 67 | April 26, 2023 7:44 PM |
[quote]Bitch, nobody voted for you!
I believe that if she got in the presidential race, she would sweep the primaries and win.
There is not a person on DL who has not slow-ghosted or been slow-ghosted. We all have one or two trashy friends that didn't or wouldn't grow up and you had to just move on. I agree that most people don't talk about it, but she's got books to sell and a Netflix deal to push. You go Michelle.
| by Anonymous | reply 68 | April 26, 2023 7:49 PM |
Sorry didn't realize we were not permitted to criticize this ugly woman. I guess I should read the DL Handbook again.
| by Anonymous | reply 69 | April 26, 2023 8:16 PM |
Do fuck yourself r69. No one says criticism of her isn’t allowed, are we not discussing how some of us don’t care for this interview??? And after the blatantly racism that was thrown at Michelle for a decade over her skin color, wardrobe, and appearance, I would think you wouldn’t start up with the “ugly” bullshit yet again.
| by Anonymous | reply 70 | April 26, 2023 9:32 PM |
I never found Michelle to be ugly.
| by Anonymous | reply 71 | April 26, 2023 9:34 PM |
Why exactly r72? Because she’s transparent? She’s just pulling back the curtain so people understand what it’s really like to go to the WH. If she just lies about it, will that satisfy you?
What is so goddamn offensive about someone setting their boundaries? I don’t fucking get the animosity. You are probably all the same whores who “felt sorry for Melania” in 2017 lololol, right? Michelle is so terrible for admitting that some friendships were lost, and at times she made choices to ensure that unhealthy friendships did not linger? She totally did the right thing and she’s being authentic — unlike that hooker. And maybe she is also a cold person, don’t know don’t care. At least she didn’t run around with “fuck Christmas” all the time.
| by Anonymous | reply 73 | April 26, 2023 9:45 PM |
I wish she were doing more important things than frau blabbing to Oprah. Michelle Obama has so much intelligence, education, charisma. Oh well.
| by Anonymous | reply 74 | April 26, 2023 9:50 PM |
I thought she didn’t like Oprah. Allegedly Oprah tried to muscle her way into the Obama’s’ inner circle, mainly because she endorsed Barack for president. Michelle allegedly told her to back off a bit.
| by Anonymous | reply 75 | April 26, 2023 11:25 PM |
I'm guessing the Obamas do feel that they owe Oprah, which they do. Oprah endorsed Obama when her talk show was still running and popular. At the same time, MO is trying to sell her books and it makes sense to have Oprah talk about it.
I never found MO to be charismatic. I felt like she had a scolding tone. Yet, she was a dignified First Lady and didn't do anything embarrassing.
| by Anonymous | reply 76 | April 26, 2023 11:32 PM |
Michelle left law practice after two years for highly remunerative political and then community liaison type jobs for the University of Chicago. Sasha and Malia live in LA, where Malia works as a writer for Swarm and Sasha is still in school. I see no reason to venerate any of them as they cash in and see no evidence of public service.. Barack is busy building the library no one wants,
So, yes, it's not surprising Michelle ghosted her friends. As a world-class opportunist, it would be surprising if she didn't. I think she was perfectly fine as a First Lady, light years above the whore who followed her but I'm not inclined to throw any money in the direction of her books, personal appearances or films. Any association with Oprah is poison, as far as I'm concerned.
| by Anonymous | reply 77 | April 27, 2023 12:35 AM |
Oprah heard: slow roasted.
| by Anonymous | reply 78 | April 27, 2023 12:43 AM |
Haven’t read thru but why do people insist on giving that woman more attention that she warrants??
I’m talking about Winfrey. She just has to stick her nose in everybody’s business to remain relevant.
I’ve always disliked this woman. Never understood her appeal.
| by Anonymous | reply 79 | April 27, 2023 12:50 AM |
Michelle married up, she did.
| by Anonymous | reply 80 | April 27, 2023 1:48 AM |
The Reagans, Clintons and now the Obamas have all made that serious cash grab. I don’t know why I expected the latter to be any different.
| by Anonymous | reply 81 | April 27, 2023 2:50 AM |
WWFCD?
What Would Frances Cleveland Do?
| by Anonymous | reply 82 | April 27, 2023 3:35 AM |
What would Jimmy Carter do?
This website says his net worth is $5 million. Another website said $60 million. Who knows.
Offsite Link| by Anonymous | reply 83 | April 27, 2023 3:59 AM |
[quote] Friendships end, change or remain.
You don't say.
| by Anonymous | reply 84 | April 27, 2023 4:21 AM |
Oprah is OVER. It annoys me Michelle gave an interview to her.
"Whaaat?"
Oprah should be ignored by the elite after her pissweak special with the Harkles.
| by Anonymous | reply 85 | April 27, 2023 1:12 PM |
