Would you mind if you spouse was your distant cousin?

Like 9th cousin or something

by Anonymousreply 27August 21, 2023 7:35 AM

I'd freak out because what if I fucked him with my cock and he became pregnant and the kid had six heads?

by Anonymousreply 1August 21, 2023 1:09 AM

R1 so what? Gay men like to fuck their relatives?

by Anonymousreply 3August 21, 2023 1:13 AM

9th cousin? Half the people in America are your 9th cousin. It’s meaningless.

by Anonymousreply 4August 21, 2023 1:22 AM

Depending on the cousin - I’d love it! Some of them are hot!

by Anonymousreply 5August 21, 2023 1:32 AM

Well, look how Franklin and Eleanor Roosevelt's children turned out!

by Anonymousreply 7August 21, 2023 1:41 AM

9th cousin is extremely distant. Sex between 3rd cousins is legal everywhere. "9th cousins" are complete strangers who probably number in the thousands. Your nearest common ancestor lived close to 300 years ago. At that point you aren't cousins so much as fellow human beings with likely very little in common, genetically speaking.

by Anonymousreply 8August 21, 2023 1:42 AM

We found out that my brother and his wife are 7th cousins. As someone above said, it's meaningless at that point.

by Anonymousreply 9August 21, 2023 2:01 AM

My DNA shows that I am roughly 9th cousins with Martin Luther King, Hugh Heffner, Marilyn Monroe and Audrey Hepburn.

by Anonymousreply 10August 21, 2023 2:06 AM

In the United States, every state allows second cousin (or more distant) marriages. About 1/2 of the states allow first cousin marriages. Second cousins share a set of great-grandparents, third cousins share a set of great-great grandparents. You likely don't even know your third or more cousins and share little with them genetically.

by Anonymousreply 11August 21, 2023 2:11 AM

Ninth cousin is genetically insignificant so no. Hell if you are from a small town in which your lineage goes back a few generations chances are someone else who’s parents are also from there is a 9th cousin.

by Anonymousreply 12August 21, 2023 2:21 AM

I have some ancestors who were three brothers who married three sisters. Then one of the couples had a son and one had a daughter and those double-first cousins got married. All of their kids had mental or physical problems. I know one was deaf and got hit by a train because he was walking along the tracks and couldn't hear it coming.

by Anonymousreply 13August 21, 2023 2:27 AM

What country were they from , R13? And what century?

by Anonymousreply 14August 21, 2023 2:44 AM

Not if they were closely related enough to be found at family gatherings.

If I chuck an ex out of my life, I want them to STAY out of my life, and not show up at Thanksgiving!

by Anonymousreply 16August 21, 2023 2:54 AM

I married my second cousin and it was fine! Until I dumped her for Donna Hanover. Now I just like great big tits.

by Anonymousreply 17August 21, 2023 2:59 AM

I hardly know my second cousins.

by Anonymousreply 18August 21, 2023 3:03 AM

I have about 20 2nd cousins that I know of, and I've only met 6 of them, 4 from one family and 2 from another. The last time I saw a 2nd cousin was at a great aunt's funeral in 1991 or '92. These are just cousins from my generation, when you get into "removed" cousins from my parents or my niece's/nephew's generation, it's endless.

We're all cousins at some point.

by Anonymousreply 20August 21, 2023 3:10 AM

R14 - the US (Indiana) in the 19th century.

by Anonymousreply 21August 21, 2023 3:14 AM

R13 Double first cousins share the same amount of genetic material as half siblings. The only state that specifically disallows double first cousin marriages is North Carolina. Otherwise, first cousin marriages are allowed in about 1/2 of all US states. An occasional consanguineous marriage is unlikely to result in serious genetic defects in offspring, but cultures that promote cousin marriages are at risk because cousins keep marrying cousins.

by Anonymousreply 22August 21, 2023 7:05 AM

Beats the hell out of having sex with your dad!

by Anonymousreply 23August 21, 2023 7:09 AM

As a gay man I wouldn't care at all even if my spouse were my first cousin - we're not going to be reproducing. (However, I'm not even slightly attracted to any of my first cousins, so that's not a danger). When we started looking carefully at my father's family tree, we realized that his Appalachian-origin family had several generations in which the tree didn't branch very far. Cousins marrying cousins all over the place - and if one died, prematurely, turning around and marrying a cousin from another aunt or uncle. We couldn't figure out why - but when we traveled to the town on the Virginia-Kentucky border where they lived it all became clear. Each "holler" was separated from the next by a very steep ridge. You might be within 3 miles as the crow flies, but you might have to walk or ride a horse for 20 miles to get around that ridge. Proximity turns out to have a lot to do with why people marry the people they do. Anyway, all those mountain folk were eccentric, but they were not deliverance-level deformed or mentally deficient. Our human ancestors traveled in tribes as they migrated out of Africa and through Asia and Europe, and 90% of the time they married (or mated) within the bounds of the tribe, so odds were they were all somewhat related. 2nd cousins seem to be a pretty safe mating as far as birth defects go, and by the time we're talking about 4th cousins, there are so many layers of other relatives in between, there's really no danger.

by Anonymousreply 24August 21, 2023 7:25 AM

No. Distant cousins have very little and sometimes no common DNA. People have been wittingly or unwittingly procreating with relatives for a long time.

by Anonymousreply 25August 21, 2023 7:30 AM

The Wilkses always marry their cousins.

by Anonymousreply 26August 21, 2023 7:32 AM

Did I mention that one of my distant ancestors was a Hatfield ? (yes THOSE Hatfields). So, yes, marrying cousins (and involving the entire family in feuds) is a good old Appalachian tradition.

by Anonymousreply 27August 21, 2023 7:35 AM

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