[quote] There is evidence that unrequited love hurts the person who is loved as well as the one who is doing the loving. In a study of more than 200 incidents of unrequited love, it was found that rejecters suffered from guilt and anxiety.
When I read this I had to call "bullshit". It's impossible to believe they feel badly for hurting someone else. I've observed it's quite the opposite. The "rejecters" enjoy breaking hearts because it gives them a sense of power and superiority.
| by Anonymous | reply 11 | January 28, 2018 2:54 AM |
[quote]The "rejecters" enjoy breaking hearts because it gives them a sense of power and superiority.
No. The study is correct.
| by Anonymous | reply 1 | January 28, 2018 1:12 AM |
You’re wrong, OP. You’ve obviously always been the obsessed one and not the object of the unwelcome attention. The object is always made uncomfortable and wants to be kind, but, often has a difficult time finding pity for the person professing undesired love.
| by Anonymous | reply 2 | January 28, 2018 1:15 AM |
OP clearly is and/or larches on to sociopaths.
| by Anonymous | reply 3 | January 28, 2018 1:18 AM |
No, OP, clearly you have issues. You are either a creepy stalker, or don't take no for an answer, or both.
| by Anonymous | reply 4 | January 28, 2018 1:23 AM |
Perhaps OP is the object of someone's unrequited affection R4?
| by Anonymous | reply 6 | January 28, 2018 1:30 AM |
I've had a couple of occasions where guys wanted a relationship with me and I had to let them down. Both of them were friends with me first, so it was very awkward afterwards. It wasn't fun at all.
| by Anonymous | reply 7 | January 28, 2018 1:35 AM |
OP is right. Many people get off on it, but that is not inconsistent with guilt and anxiety either when, as often happens, they were not as indifferent as they pretended to be.
| by Anonymous | reply 8 | January 28, 2018 2:13 AM |
OP, that's not true. After all these years, I've gotten used to it.
| by Anonymous | reply 9 | January 28, 2018 2:28 AM |
Um, you can't force, guilt or coerce REAL love, OP. If your feelings aren't returned, you move on with life and try again. The next person you care for could be more responsive to you loving them.
| by Anonymous | reply 10 | January 28, 2018 2:48 AM |
Also, you can't hurry love.
| by Anonymous | reply 11 | January 28, 2018 2:54 AM |
