It's happened to me twice, the last time about a year ago. How does this happen? I never give guys I'm hooking up with my last name or any other real info about myself, so how can they possibly find you on Facebook? (I found out when they sent me friend requests.) I didn't get mad but do admit it weirded me out a bit. Has this happened to anyone else?
| by Anonymous | reply 35 | January 12, 2018 6:05 PM |
Not exactly.
I did find a guy on rentboys who Is an aquaintence and is a FB friend, not that that means anything. He also knows some of my other friends.
I was recently contactacted by a handsome guy who saw my name tag at an event. He was almost 25 years younger than me. Unexpected, I guarantee you.
| by Anonymous | reply 1 | December 24, 2017 6:02 AM |
The internet keeps track of who you interact with- I have seen hookups pop up under "people you may know" more than a few times.
| by Anonymous | reply 3 | December 24, 2017 6:09 AM |
❤️Yes, and after 30 years apart, we are now a couple❤️
| by Anonymous | reply 4 | December 24, 2017 6:13 AM |
Thirty years of Facebook?
| by Anonymous | reply 5 | December 24, 2017 6:15 AM |
So you use people, and then want nothing to do with them once you’re done....gee, I wonder if there is any correlation between this and the high incidence of “I’m depressed” posts on this board.
| by Anonymous | reply 7 | December 24, 2017 11:32 AM |
I don’t know if they’ve found me but I’ve stalked a few of my hookups on FB.
| by Anonymous | reply 8 | December 24, 2017 11:41 AM |
If you've exchanged phone numbers, the corresponding Facebook profile will show up as a friend suggestion.
| by Anonymous | reply 9 | December 24, 2017 11:45 AM |
The Facebook app has permission to view contacts. If you've texted. Facebook will match your real identities.
People also forget that FB owns Instagram and they share user data. They also have an interest in WhatsApp but I'm not sure how deep the data mining goes.
Don't put Facebook on your phone. If you just maintain a basic profile. Stick to desktop. Not perfect in terms of privacy but less data to abuse.
| by Anonymous | reply 10 | December 24, 2017 11:57 AM |
If you have their phone number or email, their profiles always come up if you use Facebook, Instagram etc and you link it to your own mobile, email
| by Anonymous | reply 11 | December 24, 2017 11:58 AM |
You can search anyone on FB by phone number
For $5 they can do a reverse look up on your phone via Intellius
If you own your home, there are a number of websites that show who the current owner is
And Facebook and LinkedIn do comb through your contacts, so even if you're entered as "Johnny Grindr" they'll use the phone number to put you in the suggestions
| by Anonymous | reply 12 | December 24, 2017 12:05 PM |
Even weirder, I recently had a hookup from like 15 years ago recently send me a Linkedin connection request.
| by Anonymous | reply 13 | December 24, 2017 12:15 PM |
Can somebody see if I have been on their facebook page? I have looked through old acquaintances facebook pages and after a few days they sent me friend requests. It was kind of weird. Do they know I have been on their pages?
| by Anonymous | reply 14 | January 11, 2018 6:17 AM |
Yes r14, there is a way to do it, but not a Facebook feature. Its some kind of workaround trick you would have to dig into. Chances are, they are not checking to see if you are stalking them when its so easy to do it out in the open on FB.
| by Anonymous | reply 15 | January 11, 2018 6:26 AM |
Download the app Burner, a ghost number for your hookups
| by Anonymous | reply 17 | January 11, 2018 6:31 AM |
Millennial giving the Elders advice
| by Anonymous | reply 18 | January 11, 2018 6:31 AM |
R13 R14, I have neither Facebook nor LinkedIn. Never hve had an account with either. But I've received friend requests from both networking sites on behalf of people I've tricked with, but it hasn't happened for a few years.
Back in 2010-2011, it happened frequently. I'd exchange a few emails with somebody I was going to get with, and then a day or 2 after we met - always after we actually met, with the exception of some guys I emailed with heavily even without meeting - I'd get an invitation to connect with them.
Now I had their name and lots of other personal information, if I wanted it. One guy was a school principal, another was a car salesman (BMW), and another was a psychologist - and the amusing thing about him was that I am friends with his brother. I didn't even know they were related. I bet my friend doesn't know his married brother fools around with guys.
All 3 of these guys were closeted and I'm sure they didn't want to network online with me. I don't know how the connections were being made, whether through email linkages, cell phone (GPS) proximity, or something else.
That was also the time that Google+ was trying to be a thing, and Google sent me email addresses and names of some people I had in Google Chat, including some hookups, asking if we wanted to be Googly-plus friends. I still have a couple of those guys in my buddy list.
| by Anonymous | reply 19 | January 11, 2018 6:37 AM |
the thing is that I have never interacted with any of these aquaintances. they don't know my phone or my email. I don't even have gmail. I just was searching through people I used to know and after a few days they sent me a friend request. so I figured facebook somehow lets people see who is visiting their facebook page. Can that be done?
| by Anonymous | reply 20 | January 11, 2018 6:43 AM |
R20, it is known that Facebook has profiles on nearly everybody based on data they've purchased from various online sources, even if you don't have a Facebook account. Given that, I'm sure Facebook knows when you've stopped by one of their members' pages. And therefore Facebook has enough goods on you to send you an invite, even if you didn't leave your calling card.
Maybe if you did your snooping and stalking using an incognito-type browser or with a VPN, Facebook could not ID you. Maybe.
Offsite Link| by Anonymous | reply 22 | January 11, 2018 3:30 PM |
I understand that R22 but my question is if the facebook users can see who stopped by their page. Where do you see that?
| by Anonymous | reply 23 | January 11, 2018 3:45 PM |
r20 If I want to stalk a potential hook up from Grindr on FB to see more pics of him, I am usually very successful in a very short amount of time with just his first name. I just look through my "connectors" i.e. gay bartenders, social butterflies, LGBT Pride parade committee members. There is always one very popular gay bartender in every city that is friends with EVERY GAY. And this person is typically a narcissist and usually does not have many restrictions on his account. Go to this persons friend list and start searching by name. It helps to live in city with a large, but not too large, gay community. I usually find the person after searching friends of two to three "connector's' accounts. But then I do live in the Midwest. Guys here don't use a lot of fake names on accounts.
| by Anonymous | reply 24 | January 11, 2018 8:59 PM |
R23, NO, a facebook user cannot see who stopped by their page (unlike, say, Linkedin)
| by Anonymous | reply 25 | January 11, 2018 9:00 PM |
if you went to a persons profile would you show up on his "person you may list"? maybe that is a way facebook lets it be known who has been on your page. I'm not sure, of course. But I can't think of another way. Maybe another poster knows better. But facebook doesn't show the visitors
| by Anonymous | reply 26 | January 11, 2018 9:25 PM |
^persons you may know list
| by Anonymous | reply 27 | January 11, 2018 9:26 PM |
they can search you via email address. you can disable this in under "settings".
| by Anonymous | reply 28 | January 11, 2018 9:38 PM |
R23, that's not true, FB has said that cannot be done. you can't see who has been lurking on your page. there are apps that said they can but it's not accurate and it's mostly fake.
| by Anonymous | reply 29 | January 11, 2018 9:40 PM |
if they know your name, they do a google search. your linked in profile, fb page may have popped up and they send a request.
| by Anonymous | reply 30 | January 11, 2018 9:43 PM |
you bet. FB now owns What's app. so if you don't put your phone number in FB, and you have What's app, they now have your phone number!
also what's app can be used by stalkers to track you. many news outlets have reported this without naming the app but it's definitely what's app. so be very careful, they are always listening and watching you.
yes, they can turn on the camera even when it's off and no red light goes off so you don't even know they are doing it.
the latest thing is listening on conversations.
| by Anonymous | reply 31 | January 11, 2018 9:46 PM |
just this morning, i was telling my partner that we should not buy clothes for my nephew but converse shoes instead.
guess what? I see an ad for converse a few hours later on fb. I swear to you, this is not the first time it's happened.
I have a android smart tv. they probably are listening and spying on me. I have no doubt about this.
I will never have alexis or similar shit in my house.
| by Anonymous | reply 32 | January 11, 2018 9:49 PM |
Facebook is evil and scary. I regret the day I signed up.
| by Anonymous | reply 33 | January 11, 2018 9:53 PM |
R14 here. Like I said in my post, I just searched for a few old acquaintances from years ago. Not hookups. We haven't been in contact for many years. A few days after I looked at their page they sent me friend requests. It was like they knew I went to their page that is why I am asking. It was weird
| by Anonymous | reply 34 | January 11, 2018 10:16 PM |
Is there a way to delete search suggestions in facebook? I know you can delete your search history from your activity log but names still pop up in the search box.
| by Anonymous | reply 35 | January 12, 2018 6:05 PM |
